Given that a remarkably large percentage of our social
interactions take place on social networks and other virtual spaces that offer
a limited amount of privacy, steering away from all things political is quite a
conundrum. Re-blogging a quote on Tumblr, bragging about a purchase from a
certain company on Facebook, following a celebrity on Twitter – all of these
actions are interpreted as reflecting some sort of social commentary or vaguely
political choices. While all of this is consensual since none of us are being forced
to establish online presence, it opens up the vast majority of our actions to a
spectrum of (mis)interpretations. It is interesting
to look into the kind of questions and comments that are prompted by the use of
the word “feminism” and generally explicit statements about gender equality in
this particular context.
In my personal experience, one of the most common reactions
is a slew of, private or public, questions about personal experiences related
to issues that feminism is seen to be dealing with. Some examples include the
following:
“What is your worst
experience as a woman studying in a male dominated field?”
“Have you ever been openly discriminated against at work?”
“Do you get cat-called a lot?”
“Do you often feel unsafe at night?”
“Do you personally know a lot of girls that have been
assaulted by men?”
To some extent, one could argue that there is nothing
particularly problematic about this approach to understanding one’s involvement
with the feminist movement. If two people are discussing a certain issue, the
one that has had some experience with that issue is likely to have more insight
into its nature. This is often a prominent factor in discussions of gender related
issues since different genders often do experience different treatments and
therefore cannot have perfect knowledge about the experiences of one another.
One of the most prominent characteristics of any kind of privilege is the fact
that those that are privileged are almost by default unaware of it. Coming from
such a perspective, inquiring about the experiences of the member of potentially
marginalized groups should largely be expected and definitely should not be
discouraged.
At the same time, the issue of what kinds of questions are
appropriate and, more importantly, productive is one that needs to be
addressed. The questions I have listed
above are all focused on rather negative and subjective experiences. While
these questions are in no way irrelevant for feminist discourse, it is not
obvious why they would be a more natural choice for opening a discussion of
one’s views on gender equality than asking something along the lines of “Why do
you think feminism is important?” or “What kind of observations motivate your
involvement with the feminist movement?”.
In fact, building an argument based on answers to any of
these questions seems rather faulty. While a person that has been assaulted or
discriminated against because of their gender might have insights that one that
has not been in that situation is clearly lacking, they are also significantly
more likely to view the situation in a highly emotional rather than a rational
way. Consequently, their subsequent socio-political views are likely to be
heavily skewed due to their personal trauma. If a friend tells me one of our
acquaintances is a horrible person but I know that the two have previously
engaged in conflict that ended up hurting my friend in some way, I am likely to
be anxious around this third person but also more than aware of the fact that
my friend is not being fully objective and that this acquaintance might
actually have all kinds of good things going for them. Assuming that someone is
interested in gender equality because they have had a personally bad
experience, similarly offers unreliable information about the actual nature of
gender related issues. For exactly this reason, these questions seem to be a
very inefficient way of gauging someone’s take on feminism.
Moreover, these questions often seem to be a first step
towards discrediting one’s opinions related to issues of feminism and gender
equality. In a culture that already teaches men and women from a young age that
women are “crazy” and “overly emotional” or “less rational” a woman that has
had a bad experience because of her gender and is at the same time devoted to
gender equality is almost immediately dismissed as someone that just cannot be
taken seriously. All subsequent arguments are marked as being due to
“overreacting” and what is often referred to as typical mind fallacy or the
belief that a single example can be generalized to all members of the relevant
group.
At the same time, even if one assumes that most feminists
are primarily motivated by being personally hurt or angry, the previously
presented list of questions refers to a very narrow range of events that can
cause this anger. To some extent, even the last two questions can be dismissed
as somewhat irrelevant. Catcalling is often claimed to have nothing to do with
gender equality and rape culture – it is just a clumsy attempt at compliments.
Feeling unsafe is similarly presented as not being a gendered phenomenon –
anyone can get raped if they walk alone at night. Unless the event that is
being discussed as the cause of one’s involvement with the feminist movement is
objectively horrible, it is generally not difficult to construct a narrative
that explains the proposed problem away and comes back to overreacting.
The issue of what sort of gendered phenomena one can be
upset about is directly related to the way in which we think of inequality or
manifestations of patriarchy. It is often claimed that the patriarchy is an
irrelevant term since men do not hold all positions of power anymore and men
and women are equal according to the laws of most western countries. In
reality, this claim is true only if one assumes that the patriarchy is a purely
legal entity with no effect on our culture. Popular culture lags
behind legislature and harmful stereotypes and marginalizing behaviors remain
intact even when there are no legal obstacles to achieving true gender
equality.
Accordingly, when questioned about my experiences as a woman
and the way in which they relate to me identifying as a feminist I am inclined
to say “I have never been assaulted or marginalized at work but I have watched
a lot of movies and flipped through a lot of magazines.” Unfortunately, an
answer of that sort often leads to the discussion of female overreacting
outlined above. Pointing out objectification in music videos, movies or
magazines typically becomes a matter of shifting the blame and questioning
agency since, to some extent, expressing the fact that one is offended is often
a choice. This kind of discourse is neatly summarized on the “Feminist Killjoy”
t-shirts since the implication generally tends to be that feminists choose to
be offended by popular culture and “fun things” because of some false narrative
they have constructed for themselves. It is more than ironic that one can
simultaneously claim that we have achieved full gender equality while at the
same time deciding on what exactly is it that one of the genders is allowed to
criticize or find problematic. Asking questions about one’s personal
experiences and focusing on the glaringly obvious, macroscopic forms of
discrimination and inequality establishes exactly this kind of hierarchy of
phenomena that are “really bothersome” and those that should really be
dismissed on grounds of knowing what “women and feminists are like”.
Finally, while there is no doubt about the importance of
dialogue, the emphasis should really be not on just asking questions but rather
on asking them productively. Questions that involve a minimal number of
assumptions and that are not dependent on highly subjective views of whatever
issue is being discussed strike me as the ones we should all be asking once
confronted with someone whose opinions might differ from our own. Most of the
questions listed above are nothing but implicit statements about the nature of
the feminist movement and consequently far from being productive. Facebook
comments can definitely be put to better use.
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